The month of Karthikai, often bring a profound sense of loss, the grief of losing my younger brother has become an inseparable part of my life. It has been almost a decade since he passed, yet the pain feels as raw as it did in those first days. Every holiday season, the memories of us playing games, watching movies, and sharing laughter flood back, making his absence all the more palpable.
Recently, I visited the site where he was cremated. Standing by the river where his ashes were immersed, I was struck by the passage of time and the enduring ache of loss. Though ten years have passed, the longing remains unchanged, and the sorrow surfaces in waves—sometimes unexpectedly. It’s a strange thing, this grief; some days it feels distant, and on others, it crashes over me with full force, leaving me breathless.
I often wonder what life would be like if he were still here. Would he recognize the person I’ve become? Would he see the changes in me, in the life I’ve built since his departure? These thoughts linger, a constant companion to my grief. While they bring a sense of connection to his memory, they also remind me of everything we’ve missed together.
Grief is an odd emotion. At times, it feels as if letting go of the pain means letting go of him. But over the years, I’ve come to understand that grief and love are intertwined. The ache is a testament to how deeply I cared for him, and it is through this pain that his memory endures.
Yet, I am learning to shift my focus. His presence isn’t in the sadness; it’s in the stories I share, the habits and traits I’ve inherited, and the little moments that remind me of him. As I navigate this journey, I find that the pain begins to soften, making room for joy in the memories we created.
Grief may never fully leave, but it evolves. It transforms from a sharp sting into a bittersweet reminder of love. And while I will always wonder what could have been, I take solace in knowing that he remains with me, not just in sorrow but also in the enduring love that time can never erase...